Kindness Begins At Home
By Guest Contributer: Mark Brown
We all know that we should be kind to people. This is not news, nor is it news that when we are kind to others that it makes people feel better and it also makes us feel better. So then why, are we not kind all of the time? Some of us might say things like:
“Why should I always be kind to people, people aren’t always kind to me”
“The world is not kind to me, so why should I be kind to the world”
“I am kind to people when I am in the right mood”, which translates, to when I am not tired, not worried, not frazzled, not over worked, not hungry, not a victim, well, you get the idea.
The truth is, it’s easier not to be kind, isn’t it? It really does not take any real effort to be a grumpy, selfish person. It does take effort to be kind and to do kind things for people.
I think the issue of not being kind goes deeper than that it takes effort, or that other people are not kind in return. I believe that one of the key reasons we fail to be as kind to others as we could be is because; we are not all that kind to ourselves.
We are not kind to ourselves! Think about that for a moment. If we are not kind to ourselves then how can we expect ourselves to be kind to others?
You may ask, what does that mean, we are not kind to our self? Think about the voice in your head, are you thinking kind thoughts about yourself, or are you thinking negative thoughts about yourself, e.g. your not good enough, you will fail, you don’t deserve to be happy, etc. When you see something that you want or need do you treat yourself or do you deny yourself? How would that differ if we were talking about someone else in your life? You would probably help them get what they want or need, right?
Do something kind for your self today, allow you to be kind to you. Listen to the needs of your inner self, your spirit your soul, be kind to your self and watch the magic begin! I assure you, that you will feel better about you and that kindness will cascade to other people in your life!
About the Author:
Mark Brown is a highly motivated and kind soul. He’s the newest member of the One Kind Act Team, and we are thrilled to have him aboard. We’re sure you’ll see more articles and more from Mark in the future.To learn more about Mark, visit his blog “The Naked Soul”