What We See – Judging Others

What We See

Though it is human to evaluate people we encounter based on first impressions, the conclusions we come to are seldom unaffected by our own fears and our own preconceptions. Additionally, our judgments are frequently incomplete. For example, wealth can seem like proof that an individual is spoiled, and poverty can be seen as a signifier of laziness-neither of which may be true. At the heart of the tendency to categorize and criticize, we often find insecurity. Overcoming our need to set ourselves apart from what we fear is a matter of understanding the root of judgment and then reaffirming our commitment to tolerance. whatwesee

When we catch ourselves thinking or behaving judgmentally, we should ask
ourselves where these judgments come from. Traits we hope we do not possess can instigate our criticism when we see them in others because passing judgment distances us from those traits. Once we regain our center, we can reinforce our open-mindedness by putting our feelings into words. To acknowledge to ourselves that we have judged, and that we have identified the root of our judgments, is the first step to a path of compassion. Recognizing that we limit our awareness by assessing others critically can make moving past our initial impressions much easier. Judgments seldom leave room for alternate possibilities.

Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you don’t have time to love them.” If we are quick to pass judgment on others, we forget that they, like us, are human beings. As we seldom know what roads people have traveled before a shared encounter or why they have come into our lives, we should always give those we meet the gift of an open heart. Doing so allows us to replace fear-based criticism with appreciation because we can then focus wholeheartedly on the spark of good that burns in all human souls.


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7 thoughts on “What We See – Judging Others

  1. Alexys Fairfield

    In judging people, we often project our own insecurities. By declaring myself an open vehicle for spirit, I am able to see people in their purest state. When we don’t have expectations on others, we are never disappointed.

  2. Mark

    Great writing! What you say is very true, we lose so much opportunity when we judge. We often miss the oportunity to learn the lesson that the person was there to teach us.

  3. Grace

    Good morning, Matthew 🙂 This is a fantastic reminder….when we are busy ‘judging’ another, we are actually judging ourselves. As we release judgement of ourselves, and learn to love ourselves unconditionally and without reservation, we are able to extend that same grace to others. THANK YOU for posting this today, and for visiting my blog !:)

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